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Most all Mom's tell their daughters that the way to a man's heart is through their stomach. This is not necessarily 100% true. (It is only true in part.) Most men love women who can cook, but this is not the total picture.

The total picture is that each relationship is unique and beautiful. It can blossom and flourish or it can wither and die.

Summer is here. It is a time when we tend to spend more time with those we care most about. It is also a time, because of all that extra time, that conflicts start arising more and more. Most of these conflicts can be directly connected to the inherent differences that make up men and women.

Do you feel sometimes that you and your significant other can never agree? Of course men and women are different- and not just physically. Bill Cosby once said, 'Men and women belong to different species and communication between them is a science still in its infancy.'

John Oliver Hobbes said, 'Love comes to man through his senses to woman through her imagination.' While not all men and women are this way, most men find love with the eyes, the nose, the ears, and touch, while women find love through the heart with deeds done and thoughts expressed.

It is through these ideas that you can add spice to your relationship. When it comes to men, use words, use clothes, use scent to stimulate them. When it comes to women, show them your love through a hug, a kiss, a flower.

Helen Rowland said that 'A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her imagination, and then they both speak of it as an affair of the heart.' Men and women are very different species, but we both have a heart and in the end, we are both seeking the same things...love and happiness.

Conflicts often arise stemming from our inherent differences. Each sex has certain basic needs that are fairly consistent. For example, women need to feel cared for and loved in order to be able to trust their partners. Men, on the other hand, need to be trusted in order to give; a man without a woman's trust loses his momentum, his vitality.

Naturally, men will fail to care for women as women would like, and women will find reason to lose trust in men, but that doesn't change the basic needs of each. The more realistic we are about differences between the sexes, and the more we accept our own traits and tendencies, the better we will be at weathering the ups and downs in relationships, the inevitable challenges and disappointments.

I recently came across the following poem by Emmet Fox that I believe sums up my personal feelings towards love and dealing with differences.

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer;
no disease that enough love will not heal;
no door that enough love will not open;
no gulf that enough love will not bridge;
no wall that enough love will not throw down;
no sin that enough love will not redeem...
It makes no difference how deeply seated may be the trouble;
how hopeless the outlook; how muddled the tangle; how great the mistake.
A sufficient realization of love will dissolve it all.
If only you could love enough you would be
the happiest and most powerful being in the world...

Love can overpower any differences you deal with...............

Setting The Scene:

Surprise the one you love with a home cooked romantic dinner by candle light, complete with soft music, dancing....the works. Buy him or her a flower or a whole bouquet... whatever your budget permits.

Spend the entire time or evening focused on each other. Take the phone off the hook if need be. Talk, or don't talk.... sometimes actions speak louder than words. And if you do talk, stay focused on your relationship and not the family, work or whatever else happens along.

Go with the flow and follow your heart always. IT WILL NEVER STEER YOU WRONG!