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You heard a lot of things in your life about pledging. The majority is probably the idea that you have to do a bunch of dumb stuff and meaningless tasks. Yeah, that's part of it, but you have no idea what you are getting yourself into and becoming part of.
First things first. What fraternity is right for you? There is only one way to find that out. Fraternities want membership, its what keeps them alive. Frats hold rush events in the spring and the fall every year. They flier for them extensively. Find out what is going on and go to a couple of events. Meet the brothers talk to them as equals while you still can. Because when you sign that bid, you belong to them.
This brings us to the next step. How to get that bid for the fraternity you want. Well, you have been hanging out with them and if they don't like you, they won't invite you to the customary invitational event at the end of the rush. If you made it this far just keep doing what you were doing. You will probably get a bid, just don't say or do anything excessively stupid.
Once you are given the bid and you sign it, hang on for dear life. Pledging for most frats is one of the most rigourous mental strains that you will ever endure. That's not even including the pushups and various physically painfully but not dangerous positions. Notice the not dangerous part. The brothers do not actually want to hurt you. The whole idea of pledging is for the fraternity to see how badly you want to be called their brother.
It sounds like a privelidge. Believe me it is. You are about to become a part of something bigger than you and with a bigger history than you.
You will not like pledging. At all. You will hate it. But when you look back on it you will realize that it's the most fun you never want to have again.
Here are somethings to remember as well as tips to take you through pledging. Bond with your pledge brothers. They will be the only ones that will help you through this period in your life. Stay in contact and make sure you always have good communication with them. Smile as little as possible. Don't let them see you having fun unless you are ordered to.
Through out it all just remember that nothing is personal. If they single you out, let it go. Nothing is personal. If you are getting extremely mad, let it go. Nothing is personal. Now go enjoy pledging.